Why do we devote so much time and energy to someone who makes our lives miserable? Life is short and is meant to be enjoyed. First thing, be honest. Are you feeling short-changed in a relationship? Are you ok with where you are? If not, something has to change. It’s time to communicate these thoughts and feelings. Fortunately, this may place you right where you belong, outside of an unpleasant situation.
We learn after we leap, following a struggle, and in the wake of a challenge. We learn lessons as we go and discover we play a role. The choices made brought us to where we are today. Who we spend time with, what we do, and how we do it affects our lives. Sometimes we settle in an uncomfortable space, knowing we deserve so much more. Whenever we ignore what’s going on, we settle and let fear get in our way. When something is in the way, regret and unhappiness follow.
A RELATIONSHIP OR A SITUATIONSHIP?
If you feel stuck knowing you have a decision to make, do something. Start by refocusing. When you refocus energy, you pull away from what causes undue stress. The key is to see the signs and follow your heart. Whenever you get stuck in your headspace, you lose track. Before you know it, it’s twenty years later, and you’re still in the same place having the same issues with the same people.
Love wholeheartedly but know when it’s time to go. If someone withholds their love, there’s no other option but to get on with your life. Why linger past an expiry date, feeling short-changed in a relationship? Don’t end up staying where you don’t belong. Forgive, forget, and start over. We do as we do. We make mistakes, get lost, then ultimately find our way.
SHORT-CHANGED IN A RELATIONSHIP
Find the right people to love and you won’t be burdened with feeling isolated, alone, and short-changed. Love is an incredible feeling you get when you are in good company, feeling secure and reassured. Head games leave you drained and questioning why you are where you are. You may have seen the potential in the relationship, yet all along, you received nothing but breadcrumbs.
When left out in the cold, yet coming back for more, take responsibility for your part. By failing to act, you fail to launch something new. When you grow tired of where you are, this can be a good thing. It may open up an opportunity for a brand new beginning somewhere else. Be clear on what you need and go for something new. If you value you, you will gain the respect you deserve. Why restrict yourself by limiting love? You are someone’s wish fulfillment just not theirs. When you feel it, you know it.
WRONG PLACE WRONG PERSON… SAY WHAT?
Someone will take a long walk, clear their headspace, and perhaps realize what they lost. Eventually, they may want to rekindle the connection. It’s your choice. You already know how they treated you. Forgiveness is important but so is understanding what happened to you. You deserve love. You are in charge of your life. And you create your reality. Why not create something beautiful?
There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.
Let go of what’s dead and gone. Old emotions can distort the truth. The truth being they aren’t the one. So the key is to let go of what was and create what can be. When you redirect your effort and energy, you can then redirect love. Love is too precious to waste. So why waste it in the wrong place with the wrong person?
It’s never easy having to go through a difficult patch. What’s important is to reflect on the lesson and to overcome discouragement. The lesson someone taught you will not be the same lesson you end up teaching them. Their lesson is you moving on, no longer accepting breadcrumbs. And when you leave those not so great relationships, you will be on your way to enjoying a happier life.