A journey to healing takes precedence whenever we have to choose between someone who’s good for us and someone who isn’t. For something great to come about, we need to work on ourselves first. What requires healing? Are you holding onto past hurt, regret, a memory? Healing is a process. And the process is the journey. On our path to healing we gather renewed strength to overcome our disappointments, doubts, fears, and perceived obstacles.
If we don’t conquer these negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings, we will not and can not attract what we want and need. Plain and simple. Ok… maybe not so simple because it still requires effort on your part. The effort it takes to learn and grow from past mistakes, which can take center stage when we begin a journey to healing. But if we try, if we work on who we are, if we work on ourselves, then just maybe we can attract what we really, truly want and need.
REPEATING A PATTERN?
Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.
Now, what if you say, “I have no love, zero, nada.” Love has been elusive. You feel as though love is evasive. This is where you struggle to meet someone, anyone, let alone someone special because of what you are thinking and what you are believing about yourself or others. Perhaps you are struggling to meet someone stable and secure. For whatever reason, you’re connecting with those who only want to come into your life temporarily but have no long-range plans. There’s a lesson in this love story, one must learn, but it hurts like hell. The thing is, we’re not meant to repeat these same old patterns, but we do. Why? Because it takes effort to turn away from beliefs and emotions associated with any past connection, whether good or bad.
BREAKING FREE FROM BAD THINKING IS THE FIRST STEP IN THE JOURNEY TO HEALING
The key is to break free from self-destructive thoughts, so we can move towards something more suitable and stable, something long-lasting. A healthy, harmonious, and loving relationship that grows over time. A love that nurtures us and helps us to be a better person so we can continue to attract love in all forms throughout our lifetime. Over the years, what I learned was if we are to be genuinely happy, we must first be happy with ourselves. It’s when we’re comfortable in our skin, loving who we are, and respecting the healing that must first take place. Only then can we love others in the same way.
Ten years ago, I still feared loss enough to abandon myself in order to keep things stable. I’d smile when I was sad, pretend to like people who appalled me. What I now know is that losses aren’t cataclysmic if they teach the heart and soul their natural cycle of breaking and healing.
Whenever we spend our time holding onto past hurt, we use up valuable energy which keeps us trapped. Energy that can be used elsewhere such as freeing ourselves so we can attract someone better into our lives. When we take the time to nurture who we are, we can then attract and nurture who we need. And what we give is what we receive.