Feeling stuck? Not a great place to be, especially when one isn’t sure of the next step. A place of indecisiveness will land us stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere if we aren’t careful. Anytime we’re undecided, we have a hard time speaking up about what it is we want because we don’t know. Or could it be, we do know, but fear the unknown? The key is, you not only have to know, but you have to decide, to decide. And in confidence take that next step. Are you stuck in never never land?
Without confidence, over time, disappointment sets in, and regrets are sure to follow. Whenever we are clear on what we want and are optimistic and hopeful, we can move beyond the stuck phase. Perhaps we need to get to a place where we are so frustrated that we have no other recourse but to take a risk. When we take a chance, we get to where we need to be, outside of some rut.
If skeptical, we have reservations. Perhaps trust issues. Not only trust in others but trusting ourselves in whether we made or are about to make the right decision. Here we tend to overthink and create all kinds of stories (excuses) about why we can not or will not move forward.
Being stuck is a position few of us like. We want something new but cannot let go of the old – old ideas, beliefs, habits, even thoughts. We are out of contact with our own genius. Sometimes we know we are stuck; sometimes we don’t. In both cases we have to DO something.
WHY STAY STUCK IN NEVER NEVER LAND… THE KEY IS TO TAKE A CHANCE
Perhaps we play the blame game. Or we are in the process of healing and need more time (to think?). Maybe we are so over-analytical to the point of never taking the much-needed action. It could be we have high expectations and expect the other person to step up to the plate. But what if they won’t budge? Are we going to be ok with this?
Regardless of what this may mean to you, this withholding, this expectation, this inaction, ends up being an open invitation to never never land. Where what you want to happen will never happen if you don’t do something. If unwilling to take a chance or refusing to prioritize something important, it will lead you to where you shouldn’t be. Somewhere in the middle of nowhere, wasting time trying to figure it all out.
Every action we have is going to have repercussions in ways we could not anticipate.
When we find ourselves somewhere in the boondocks, trying to figure things out, it will only lead to feeling more isolated. Perhaps it was pride that stood in our way. We fear our vulnerability and decline to open up, refusing to be honest with not only someone else but with ourselves. Never easy. Rather than communicate, we tend to go cold turkey. Sadly, this is when we pay the piper, having to bear the consequences of our action, or in this case, inaction. The refusal to express ourselves and open up with what’s in our hearts, in fear of the repercussions, will keep us where we don’t want to be… stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere.