Why stay stuck in situations which only bring out the worst in you? We don’t always spot those hairline cracks in the foundation of our lives; however, over time we do. It’s during a time when we feel things are off-kilter; when we sense something is off balance, out of whack, or out of place. And this feeling and this sensing reveal something important. These instinctive moments remind us that we have the power to usher in something better… something great.
We are in charge and in control of renewing, reviving, and reawakening our mission, purpose, and passion. In a nutshell, we are in charge of the lives we lead. We can always reform old ways to add stability. What about taking a chance entertaining something new, leaving what was, and taking part in what could be?
Being stuck is a position few of us like. We want something new but cannot let go of the old – old ideas, beliefs, habits, even thoughts. We are out of contact with our own genius. Sometimes we know we are stuck; sometimes we don’t. In both cases we have to DO something.
What I’m trying to get at is this: why stay stuck in something, somewhere, with someone that doesn’t fit in with who you are or with who you are trying to become? If something isn’t aligning with who you are becoming, then this will not work well. Whether that something happens to be a particular situation, a place, a person, or a group. It will not bring about something great, which is the best version of you.
WHY STAY STUCK?
Recognize your worth and value. Honor and respect your intrinsic nature. Acknowledge your emotions whenever challenged by a failing relationship regardless of whether it’s in the workplace, at play, or in the home. Allow yourself time to recover from negativity, but remember to move on after the challenge so you can get beyond the heartache. Forgive yourself and forgive all those who caused the heartbreak.
You can manifest a new cycle, bring in new love, and harness new opportunities. Go your own way joyfully, peacefully, and thoughtfully believing something great will show up and it will. Once you leave anything bad for something better, you realize imbalance caused the setback which set you off track. The hands of the clock kept moving, unfortunately without you. This disparity created a gap between where you are and where you could be.
When inundated with negativity, the scale tips to one side. Life holds nothing more and nothing less. And until we take a leap of faith and grab hold of a better understanding, nothing happens. Ask, what do I need right now that will help me through this unsettling situation?
Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.
DO SOMETHING NEW
There’s a saying when one door closes, another always opens. It’s important to believe this. The key is to learn the lesson, graduate, and move on to better things. When we don’t learn the lesson, we fail, only to stay in the same situation. Unfortunately, we end up repeating the same old negative cycle. Life always plays ball, it will throw something your way and expect you to throw something back. You create your own magic. You have the power to change your circumstances.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GREAT PEOPLE
When you pay attention to the red flags from the beginning, you can avoid a host of problems. The problems sadly appear as fine cracks within the infrastructure of the home, the workplace, or the gathering space. It’s where difficulties turn into unacceptable situations, making an appearance by flaunting the flaws within those (unsuitable) friendships, (impossible) relationships, or the (unhealthy) work environments. Ask, is this instability worth holding on to and can we mend the relationship with communication, time, and forgiveness? If not, you can’t change what happened, nor can you change the other person. But guess what? You can take the time you need to work on changing you, your perspective, the way you see something, the way you think about it, and the way you feel. And what you discover is something changes for the better, and life offers a special gift.
The greatest gift always arrives long after the challenge, following the conflict, and beyond the heartbreak. When you finally see the truth and realize you have the strength to get past whatever the situation may be. Life, love, and work shouldn’t ever be a mystery.
YOU ALREADY KNOW WHAT’S RIGHT AND WHAT ISN’T – CHOOSE
With love, we know it’s true because we are never left asking, why. We know when someone is the right one because they are always there for us. We sense when the workplace is a great fit because it’s where you will receive guidance, support, encouragement, and backing. And we know when we are in the right career due to our eagerness to get each new day started.
The cheerleaders in your life are the ones who catch you when you tumble, they will always have your back, and comfort you when need be. Your avid supporters and enthusiasts will be there to inspire you to take a chance on being, becoming, and dreaming something great.
You have the ability to choose which way you want to go. You have to believe great things are going to happen in your life. Do everything you can – prepare, pray, and achieve – to make it happen.