Life should never be this complicated, when we have to search a little longer and dig a little deeper, to not only discover there was more to the story, but to uncover the truth. There’s a saying the truth always comes out one way or another. It usually happens prior to closing out a chapter of any partnership, relationship, friendship, or anything that meant something at one time.
In life, things happen, people come, people go, and everything changes. Change is the only constant. There are things we see and things we don’t. Some things remain hidden. But spidey-senses will pick up on something, sooner or later. In other words, intuition will come a knocking.
Trust your own instincts, go inside, follow your heart. Right from the start. Go ahead and stand up for what you believe in. As I’ve learned, that’s the path to happiness.
We aren’t always going to understand why things happen or what someone’s true intentions are or were. We don’t always get the memo. There’s no billboard with flashing lights that reads, you’re hanging out with the wrong crowd, that he or she isn’t the one, or what you are doing isn’t working. And until you separate yourself from what ails you, there will be no change in your relationship, in the workplace, or for that matter in your life. The greatest changes occur from within.
It’s important to be honest with yourself. Observe your situation closely with discernment and let clarity guide you on a journey to understanding. Not only an understanding of what’s happening around you but an awareness of what’s happening within you. Are you seeing everything with eyes wide open or are you looking through rose-colored glasses? Can you barely make out the flaws or are they superimposed? What story are you telling yourself?
Honesty allows us to live with not knowing. We do not know the full story; we do not know where we are in the story. We do not know who, ultimately, is at fault or who will carry the blame in the end.
CLARITY ARRIVES GRACEFULLY AND UNEXPECTEDLY
Sometimes true intentions may not be as clear as we suspect. It’s important to step back and away, to review, and pay careful attention to the details. I can guarantee something always hides there. It rests within the pages, somewhere between the lines. Whatever you are dealing with or going through, rest assured it’s to gain further clarity into what yet remains elusive and secret.
Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.
How do we attain clarity? Everything becomes transparent when what matters most becomes the new focal point. It’s when you know what’s important and what isn’t. An opportunity to see clearly comes when we least expect it. And it usually happens once we step away from the drama and the conflict and separate ourselves from the issues. In the quietest of moments, when alone, we receive clarity. When you are clear on what you want in life and what you don’t. Engage your time wisely, give and accept wholeheartedly, and remain vigilant. And whatever you do, never get lost in someone else’s story.
What do you assess, fret over, then internalize? Are you keeping company with inharmonious people? Working in a toxic environment? In an unforgiving partnership? Are you denying yourself happiness? Whenever someone makes you feel less than who you are and believes they are putting you in your rightful place, the only place it really puts you is in a guarded state. We ask why relationships fail, and realize it’s because it’s tiring to always be cautious, careful, and attentive. For whatever reason we end up questioning ourselves… did I use the right words and did I do the right thing?
THE HEART KNOWS WHEN THERE’S MORE TO THE STORY
We grow weary whenever we have to explain ourselves to anyone. Some things should come to a close for this very reason. Especially when challenged to secure our place, in some line, in a workplace, in a friendship, or a relationship. Striving to earn someone’s admiration while failing to realize our own. In the process, we end up in a difficult place whenever we try to protect our heart.
Self-respect will always fall to the wayside, when we place someone where we should be, somehow losing ourselves in the process. Respect you for being you, love you first, love you regardless of the foibles and indiscretions, for the mistakes you made along the way, and the lessons you learned and earned. Reaching closure is an important aspect of life because it gives us an opportunity. It opens up new possibilities, to do something else or to meet someone more suited to who we are.
Whenever there’s concealed aspects and motives it makes relationships difficult. If we have to constantly change who we are to make something work, we move away from not only our authenticity but away from truth. From here I can assure you it’s not only the wrong relationship, but there’s more to the story… yours, his, hers, and theirs. Everyone has a story. But the key is to rid yourself of the stories you don’t want to continue telling yourself and securing the ones you do. So, what’s your current story, the one you may tell others, or most importantly the one you tell yourself? Is it something you are open and willing to share, or does it remain secret? If it’s secret, perhaps now’s the time to release it and rewrite a better version. A heart always knows.