How do we know when it’s time to bring balance back? When something in your life is off, whether it’s friendships, love life, health, or work. We know when something is out of whack or off-kilter. It’s that pivotal point when something has to change. We go about our days as if a balanced life wasn’t an important factor, but it is. Someone once said, don’t get too greedy, you can’t have everything. However, it’s not a matter of being insatiable, it’s more about being honest with yourself. When something’s missing, it’s missing.
So, how do we get the balance back? What can we do? For starters, what we can do is stop doing what we aren’t doing, and that is to take a chance on something new. It could be another job, a new relationship, building friendships, oh, what the heck, let’s go for gusto… a better way to live. And the only way this will happen is if we accept change.
Is the change you seek nothing but wishful thinking, then this article was written just for you. When you avoid taking a risk on something you want, you end up setting limitations and inevitably settle. Are your thoughts clouding your emotions, or are these emotions clouding judgment? This clouded thinking will have you chanting, if only… if only I could take that step, if only I could land that contract… if only. We create the lives we lead. We decide whether to invest our time, energy, and love in those partnerships, relationships, ventures, or projects.
Our lives are a mixture of different roles. Most of us are doing the best we can to find whatever the right balance is . . . For me, that balance is family, work, and service.
BRINGING BALANCE BACK REQUIRES LIVING OUR TRUTH
Perhaps, you need a little more time to heal, to recoup, to rejuvenate to figure it out. Maybe you need time to clear out the cobwebs of the soul. But how do we get to a point when we are ready? Ready to love again, ready to commit to someone or something. Ready to overcome the fears, which always hold us back from living authentically. The problem is we overthink until we live the dream life only in our heads. And somewhere out there lives the truth. The truth we are missing out on, the truth we aren’t living because our lives are so out of balance.
But you do have choices about how you spend your time. Balancing what you need to do with what you want to do can lead to happiness and success.
It’s difficult to harness balance when having to make the heart versus head decision. No one said, “Hey kid this will be easy.” It never is. There comes a time when we have to say, “It’s now or never,” and just get it done. Or let it be and move it outside of your thought. However, now’s the time to plant those seeds or… pass it on to the next guy who will do something with them. You only have this one life, make it special.
Getting in balance is not so much about adopting new strategies to change your behaviors, as it is about realigning yourself in all of your thoughts so as to create a balance between what you desire and how you conduct your life on a daily basis.
SHOULD WE DITCH THE FEAR OR MAKE FRIENDS WITH IT?
We have the tendency of mulling things over until there’s nothing left to mull. Should we stay or should we go? Do we or don’t we? Can we or can’t we? Constant conflicting messages will keep you where you are. Then the if only or only if returns. If only I could. If only they hired, only if she looks my way, only if it works out. Wow, really? The heck with rejection, make something happen, embrace the pain that comes with it and get on with life.
Success only comes when we make those difficult decisions. We achieve goals when we take a chance, a risk, or a leap of faith. Perhaps you don’t want to rule out logic altogether, knowing you have every right to weigh your options and review the pros and cons. But don’t get stuck assessing, evaluating, and reviewing until you ultimately hit a roadblock. This barrier will only prevent you from facing what you need to face. And what you need to face usually is what you need the most.
Fear can be a friend or a foe, and that depends on you and your thoughts. Fear is only a friend if you are prepared to go with the flow. When you ride out the change you fear, that alone will bring you closer to who or where you’d rather be. It’s personal… the place of pure unmitigated balance. It’s when love, work, play, health, wellness, and well-being, meld together harmoniously to create what we construe as the perfect life. Balance is in the eye of the beholder, and the key is to find what works for you.