Time for a Fresh Start? Ultimatums can Lead to a New Path

Anyone quick to judge, who plays the blame game, and retaliates whenever you break any of their so-called rules, delights in ultimatums. When in the company of those who choose control over autonomy, we feel as though we can’t escape. But one thing I know for sure, we don’t have to stay stuck where we’re unhappy. What’s important to remember is we have the power to create the kind of life we want to live. When we take charge, we find a way out. 

Those who dish out ultimatums never win an admiration poll. Eventually, those at the receiving end, tire of the relentless inconsiderate and disrespectful behavior. Ultimately, the one being reproached will disengage from where fear rules the roost. It’s not easy to work, play, or live in a fear-based environment. 

When someone manages every minute aspect, frequently with no consideration for others, it’s micromanaging. Micromanaging relationships is a form of control. It’s difficult dealing with those who use ultimatums to push out their agenda. They will always demand and dictate rather than listen to another point of view. For them, the word compromise doesn’t exist. Input and feedback isn’t part of their makeup or agenda.

THE ULTIMATE QUESTION FOLLOWING ULTIMATUMS

This is when relentless criticism pushes us not only to our limit, but to the crossroads. Whenever at the crossroads, peace will always elude us until we decide on what path we want to take. Good luck moving from any predicament if you remain indecisive. How can you even sense peace when what happened has you looking back at what you could have done better? The trouble with looking back is there’s no momentum, no growth, this is where you stay… stuck. Fixed in a time, which no longer exists, and caught up in a place of uncertainty. Unfortunately, whether to stay or go, becomes the ultimate question.

Those who instigate fear in any setting, be it a workplace, a family, or a relationship, will even cross the line. They will convince anyone that they are right, while everyone else is wrong, and they succeed. What this does is it creates imbalance, an uneven playing field. What usually follows my way or the highway reasoning will be discord, friction, and conflict, which serves no one’s higher good. Not only will it create hard feelings all around, but it will end any warmhearted relationship. This is where morale takes a nosedive, friendships wane, and relationships wither away. 

FRESH START

We naturally like to spend time with those who are easier to get along with, where there is equal give and take, not with those who make life difficult. The only way to see your way sanely through such a relationship is to understand it for what it is, something you can’t change. The key is to take care of you. You already have the answer. It’s better to take another road and stay intact, with you in one piece rather than falling to pieces all the time. The way out isn’t easy but essential. When we step back and away from the problem, we can reassess any negative drama with clarity. And this can lead to a successful outcome but only if we regain control over our life. 

Clarity is what you will need whenever you find yourself painfully entangled. When trapped in a fog we feel confused. This is not only where we sense discomfort, but it’s also where our peace and contentment diminish. What’s important is to trust your heart because the heart will always be the first to let you know when something’s wrong. Not only will it tell you something sucks, but it will also inform you when it’s time to make a fresh start.